Sunday, February 13, 2011

Backpacking Bride

Of late, everybody around me seems to be getting married, or engaged, or in the process of getting into either of the two relationship statuses. Let me add a disclaimer before I begin: Getting married is a great thing. BUT. But, but, only if you are mentally prepared for it and not because you are a bottle of medicine that comes with an expiry date and is no good after a certain age. So I'm going to state my reasons publicly on my blog for all my relatives/friends/well-wishers who constantly try to sell the idea of marriage to me like executives who have to meet sales targets. You see, people marry for different reasons- happiness, financial security, not dying alone etc etc. The last one is something I anyway encounter every now and then on some remote trek. Finances are taken care of by my travel writing (still can't shop at Mango but can pay my rent). Happiness. That's something travel itself takes care of. But who, ask my uncles and aunts, would want to 'live like this' for the rest of her life? Who, I ask, would want a Backpacking Bahu? And then everybody ponders over the grave situation. Perhaps I could take up a job in a city? That way I could 'travel' to work everday? Or pehaps I could marry someone who gets transferred a lot? So I could be wrapped up by Movers and Packers with the rest of the luggage and know what it feels like to be a Samsonite? Or perhaps I could give up travel all together, because eventually I would crave to be in one place? Well, it's been over five years, and not a day has come when I have thought that I could give up travel for anything, anyone. So while I'm threatened by Matchmakers who pity the fate of this poor misled girl, I meet Radka, a 62-year old female pilot who is the leader of the top aerobatics team in the world. And everything's all right when I see her calmly sip her coffee and the brilliance of her eyes that explore the world, dream and shine with the happiness of one who has followed her heart. Immediately after that, I also meet a moron who actually has the nerve to call me a weirdo, albeit in more polite words. I don't know what the future holds for me, but when I crave for that anchorage that subtly asks me to hang up my hiking boots, I will let you know. Watch this space for that post. Get a coffee, coz it might take forever.

12 comments:

Backpacking Ninja said...

2 comments and 1 question -

1. Don't have to stop traveling if you get married. You don't need to give up travel. Trust me on that. I packed my bags and went away on a 7 month trip without my husband :) And he smiled away

2. But, dont marry if you cant find a guy who has that wanderlust too :)

Question - Who was that wierdo? Im really curious.

Anonymous said...

Pings!!! loved reading.. i agree you should stay the way you are.
shalini

Anonymous said...

A Happy & Content Life is a Matter of Perspective ... Most People think it is a Achieved by a Text Book Life.
Most people never have the guts to live a life based on Passion & unfortunately for you - instead of being in awe of the people who do,they resent & ridicule their ways .

Aparna Subramanyam said...

When I grow up, I want to be like you Shikhu. I admire you so much and I would hate to see you hang up your boots. For anyone or anything.

Jose Luis said...

Loved it. In these uncertain times where everyone is worried about crisis, work, disturbing news on unrest, and so on... it is like a breath of fresh air to see someone truly happy doing what she wants with what she does the best :-)

Fidgety Feet said...

Ninja, does your hubby have a brother? :P That weirdo was some random chap, no one from Red Bull:)
Thanks Shalu & Anonymous!!
Aparna!Your 'when I grow up' is tooo cute!! Thanks Jose:) Hope to travel more and see you agian:)

Anonymous said...

Hi,loved reading your blog and can very well understand your feeling as i am going through the same phase.Though marriage is important it is definitely not a necessity. I love traveling and love my free and independent life. Only the fortunate ones get the opportunity and you are one of them. Keep traveling as there is lots to explore and learn.

Anonymous said...

Shikha...life is like a coin, you can spend it the way you want but you can spend it only once... so do what your heart tells you to.... as far as relatives are concerned... they'll never stop bothering you.. so pay no heed... you are an exceptional & independent woman... i really admire you for that...

Love
Swati Mahara Rawat

Anonymous said...

Shikha...life is like a coin, you can spend it the way you want but you can spend it only once... so do what your heart tells you to.... as far as relatives are concerned... they'll never stop bothering you.. so pay no heed... you are an exceptional & independent woman... i really admire you for that...

Love
Swati Mahara Rawat

Abhishek Behl said...

Finally - yes, will like to see you get married and make sure your husband is a travel agent / writer or even traveller like yourself. You guys will make a great couple. Good post though - Wishes

DogWithBlog said...

Quite like as Bukowski said of writing,"If it doesn't come bursting out of you in spite of everything,
don't do it.", wedding too, shouldn't be the crux of life. I may sound naive but age has nothing to do with it. It should come, if at all,it should- when one is mentally prepared. But the reality presents a dim view,I see it all round me...relatives pestering my sister to tie the knot, ladies from the neighborhood scooping one potential match after another...and the vicious cycle continues:)

Aishwarya Kandpal said...

Cant tell you how much i love this post!